So I was very interested what he would say about relationships, gender roles, and how to “write a good love story.” Wow, was he blunt! This did not seem like the bohemian Donald Miller that we are all accustomed to.
But I liked his bluntness. It seemed refreshing. Candid. Authentic. And those are also words that I equate with Donald Miller.
He took a lot of heat though. If you scan down through the hundreds of comments, you can see all kinds of criticism for his views. Some were upset about his word choices being demeaning to women (e.g., "slutty"). Some disagreed with the sentiment that men should step up and be the authors of the love story (which implies that women take a more passive role).
Working with young adults, I thought more of the women would be thrilled with what he wrote. It’s the kind of stuff twenty-something females complain about all the time. They consistently say they wish young men would step it up. Lead. Be more courteous. Have more spiritual backbone. Be less immature. Stop hanging out with loser friends. I was surprised that so many negative comments were from women.
All of this points to one conclusion. Our culture is very divided on the issue of gender. I think we want to have our cake and we want to eat our cake. That is, we want men and women to play the same roles, AND we want them to play the traditional roles that we admire in our grandparents. We want a woman to be Carrie Bradshaw, and we want her to be Ruth Graham. We want a man to be Ashton Kutcher, AND we want him to be John Eldredge.
But I’m not sure we can be both.
What did you think about Donald Miller’s post? What’s your thoughts on this hot-button issue?
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